Bunches Of Quotes

I have always had this weird obsession with quotes. I feel as if though they’re speaking to me, as if they they can somehow see through my soul and tell me exactly what I need to hear. So here, for you, I put together a collection of a few that blew my mind along the years. And on that note, I hope they speak to you as they have spoken to me.

1. We scream out insecurities and whisper out apologies, and that is why this world will always be so wrong.

2. It’s alright to lose your pride over something you love, but never lose something you love over your pride.

3.  “Never underestimate your power to change yourself; never overestimate your power to change others.”  –Wayne Dyer

4. Life is short, live it. Love is rare, grab it. Anger is bad, dump it. Fear is awful, face it. Memories are sweet, cherish them.

5. “Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to a better understanding of ourselves.”  –Carl Gustav Jung

6. When someone gives you their time, they are giving you a portion of their life that they will never get back. It’s one of the most precious gifts you can receive. Don’t waste it.

7. “Blessed is he who expects nothing, for he shall never be disappointed.”  -Alexander Pope

8. “Good judgment comes from experience, and experience comes from bad judgment.”  -Rita Mae Brown

9. You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading your last one.

10. Nothing lasts forever; so live it up, drink it down, avoid the negativity, take chances and never regret because at one point it was what you wanted.

11. Today is the Tomorrow we worried about Yesterday.

12. “Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.”  –Mark Twain

13. “You can’t force love, I realized. It’s there or it isn’t. If it’s not there, you’ve got to be able to admit it. If it is there, you’ve got to do whatever it takes to protect the ones you love.”  –Richelle Mead

14. Learn to appreciate the things you have before time forces you appreciate the things you once had.

15. True love isn’t about being inseparable; it’s about two people being true to each other even when they are separated.

16. Instead of judging people by their past, stand by them and help repair their future.

17. Don’t look for someone who will solve all your problems; look for someone who will face them with you.

18. Just because you have a past with someone, doesn’t mean you should have a future with them.

19. Regret is just an excuse to wallow in self-pity without feeling selfish.

20. Nobody gets through life without losing someone they love, someone they need, or something they thought was meant to be. But it is these losses that make us stronger and eventually move us toward future opportunities.

21. Anyone can come into your life and say how much they love you. It takes someone really special to stay in your life and show how much they love you.

22. Jealousy is the art of counting someone else blessings instead of your own. Don’t waste your time on jealousy. The only person you’re competing against is yourself.

23. In life, if you don’t risk anything, you risk everything.

24. Change has considerable psychological impact on the mind. To the fearful it’s threatening because things may get worse. To the hopeful it’s encouraging because things may get better. To the confident it’s inspiring because the challenge exists to make things better.

25. Never do something permanently foolish just because you are temporarily upset.

26. Some relationships are like glass; It’s better to leave it broken, than to hurt yourself more by trying to put it back together.

27. Life is 10% of what happens to you and 90% of how you react to it.

28. You know you’ve found true love when you catch yourself falling in love with the same person over and over again.

29. Sometimes you need to distance yourself to see things clearly.

30. “A pebble in the water makes a ripple effect, every action in this world will bear a consequence.” -Red Jumpsuit Apparatus

31. The happiness that I feel is unlike any happiness I have ever experienced. But the sadness that consumes me during the long periods when the happiness is gone is unlike any sadness I’ve ever had, too. And I can’t decide which one is more affecting….

32. Say what you mean and mean what you say. Don’t expect others to read your mind, and don’t play games with their heads and hearts. Don’t tell half-truths and expect people to trust you when the full truth comes out. Half-truths are no better than lies. And don’t ignore someone you care about, because lack of concern hurts more than angry words.

33. A man’s true secrets are more secret to himself than they are to others.

34. Learn to love yourself first, instead of loving the idea of other people loving you.

35. Too often, the thing we want the most is the thing we can’t have. Desire leaves us heartbroken; it wears us out. Desire can wreck our lives, but as tough as wanting something can be, the people who suffer the most are those who don’t know what they want.

36. Fearless is not the absence of fear. It’s not being completely unafraid. Fearless is having fears, having doubts… lots of them. Fearless is living in spite of those things that scare you to death.

37. Distance never separates any relation; closeness never builds any relation. If feelings are true and honest, then relation will always remain there.

38. The reason most people fall instead of succeed is they trade in what they want most for what they want at the moment.

39. Friendship is easily turned into love, but love is very hard to turn back into friendship.

40. There’s never an ending, just new beginnings. The past makes who you are, but won’t determine who you’ll be. You choose who you’ll become.

Take Your Hand Off ‘Pause’ And Hit ‘Play’, Already.

“Don’t wait for the right person to come into your life. Rather, be the right person to come to someone’s life.”

These two sentences spoke volumes to me. I hope they do the same for you…

…If not,

Quit sitting around, expecting the right man or woman to come into your life and make it all better. No one in this world has that power but you. So go out, do the things you have always wanted to do. Spend time with the people you love most. Watch that movie you’ve been waiting to get around to… Take those french language classes you never had the time for before. Do something that absolutely scares the living daylights out of you. Try out a new restaurant. Take up a new hobby. Do whatever YOU want to do, because only then will YOU be a better person. Only then will YOU be a happier version of yourself.

The time you have now is so valuable. When else will you be able to do anything you want without having to think of your significant other? So this time alone… don’t be saddened by it, and never take it for granted. For all you know, tomorrow could be the day you meet the person you’re meant to spend the rest of your life with. Until then, take some time out for yourself. You deserve it.

So try something new. Take a chance… hell, take a risk. Just enjoy every bloody second of it. Live life. No regrets.

And when the right person does come along, they will appreciate you all the more for it.

A Work In Progress

When you go out of the house every day, how do you want people to see you? What version of yourself do you want to display?

As much as I know, I’m viewed as a ridiculously smart person with a good head on her shoulders. My best friends see me as this lovable, quirky person who says the completely right thing at the most horribly wrong time. I can’t remember the last time I let anyone see a -insert name here- who wasn’t dangerously composed. I’m always very laid-back, with a witty comment or two in hand. The “me” everyone sees is ridiculously confident, erring on the side of arrogant.

There’s this saying… Pretend to be someone you’re not for long enough, and you will eventually become that person. Whoever said this was a very intelligent person. Possibly sad, but very intelligent. I’ve gotten so used to displaying this side of me for so long that I’ve forgotten that it might not be completely true.These past few weeks, reality has been prodding my side with one surprise after another till I’ve finally come to an unfortunate realization.

I have issues. Real, big issues. I’m utterly and completely fucked up.

I am this ball of yarn that has started to unwind. I’m as insecure as one gets. I have trust issues, especially with guys. I make the most jealous, possessive girlfriend. In hand with the trust, I have this fear of being abandoned.

There. I said it. Does that make me feel better? God, no.

Though I’ve only recently come to this realization, I think part of me has always had those issues, just not in such great of a magnitude. And now… now, I’m just broken. All due to a guy.

Good job, -insert name here-! You’ve really outdone yourself this time.

I mean… really… who lets a guy into her life when she’s such a wrecking ball of issues, only to have him walk out for reasons she still does not understand? How can a guy simply give up on a future they had planned together while they were still so much in love? And if one guy could give up so easily, what’s to say every other guy out there won’t?

When we were together, he said he was worried I’d bury myself into my studies and my work if we broke up (due to our families not approving). I couldn’t see how I could possibly do that then. Now, the distant possibility is inching closer every minute of every day that I am reminded of him and what we’ve lost. Maybe I can pull off the whole ‘cat lady’ lifestyle. You never know, eh?

He said, “It’s not the end of the World.” It definitely is not. However, it is the end of how I imagined my future. It is the end of every “tomorrow” I had planned. It is the end of “2 kids- 1 boy, 1 girl” we were going to have. It is the end of him and me against the world. It is the end of so many things, but it definitely is not the end of the world. Then why does it hurt so fucking much?

And to add to it all, I now have issues. Issues I will probably have to deal with. Why can’t I just sleep and have it be 2014 already? For someone who always has an answer at the tip of her tongue, I have no bloody idea where to start in addressing my issues. In the past, I merely said ‘yes’ to the first guy who showed interest, only to realize what a colossal mistake I made a few days later. At least that kept me from facing what was bothering me. Oh well, I can’t be 18 forever.

Maybe I can drown my problems in alcohol, one shot after another. Then again… I don’t think ‘Devidas’ would fit me very well as an alternative name. That and the whole issue of possibly becoming an alcoholic.

So I guess there’s only one option left. Facing them head on. So much easier said than done. With that said… here’s to me, -raising imaginary shot glass in hand-, taking down one bad guy… err, issue… at a time. -clinking of shot glasses-

Cheers!

A Heartbreak Waiting To Happen

I’ve been learning lately when you are newly single, everyone (and then some) just has to weigh in on your love life. It doesn’t matter if you want to be single, you must absolutely meet one of their cute, single friends. I also had a couple of guys trying to trap me into another relationship, and I was appalled at the number of my girl friends who insisted I give them a chance. “He really likes you, so he will definitely make you happy.”

This brought to mind a saying I’ve heard over and over again throughout my short life… You will be happier with someone who truly loves you rather than with someone you truly love.

Really? Must it be a decision between one or the other? Why not have someone who you truly love that loves you back just as much? I cannot understand how either person can be happy in a relationship where love is not shared with an equal passion. Nothing good can come out of unrequited love.

We have all been part of relationships where we felt that we loved more, cared more, felt more deeply than our significant other; it is not a pleasant feeling.

When you’re more in love, you unconsciously give the other person a significant upper hand, an upper hand you will feel throughout the course of your relationship. How this person views you suddenly becomes way more important than how you view yourself, and you will feel the constant need to win their approval and hopefully their love.

In every fight, you will notice only your glaring flaws and all their faults are easily dismissed and forgotten. Everything that goes wrong in the relationship becomes your own doing, and you start to see the many reasons they don’t love you back equally. It is a downward spiral, one that can’t be stopped. All too soon, the only thing that matters is earning their affection, and you’re willing to do anything including changing yourself irrevocably in order to get it.

First it will be the little things, like the way you dress or a new haircut they will be sure to love. Then comes tweaking your personality to be the kind of person they would like… not as emotional, definitely more aloof, not as loud of a laugh… and it goes on and on. You stop seeing your closest friends as often as you’d like, and you’re hanging out with theirs… in order to fit into their life better, of course.

The amount of utter crap you take from them knows no bounds, and you even tell yourself that a good reason exists for how they’re acting. After all, you’re obviously not worth their love yet and hopefully with time and effort on your part, they will start to love you. Finally comes the time when your world shatters with them ending things, claiming you’re not the person they fell for and how you’d been pushing them away the past few months.

When your world finally stops turning, and you have a grasp on some semblance of reality, all that stays on your side is the heartache that won’t go away and the glaring damage you inflicted on yourself. It’s alright… nothing a few months in therapy can’t fix. Just kidding.

But seriously? Why would you want to put another miserable soul through that?  Don’t we all want to be completely in love with the person we’re with and have them love us back just as much? So really, don’t settle for anything less than that. We all deserve at least that much.

Love

What is our ghastly obsession with love? The one emotion that sparks every sense in our body, the one emotion that turns the greatest stoic into an incorrigible mess, the one emotion that inspires the greatest stories, songs, and movies of our time. It’s as if though we get so enamored by the saying “It’s better to have loved and lost, than to never have loved at all”, we are willing to go to any extent to feel this fantasized love, if only for a little while.

But honestly, is love all that it’s hyped up to be?

I can honestly say I have loved, and also that I have lost. I put everything I had into making my relationship work, and then some. In the end, none of it mattered. All the memories I have, the ones I treasured so deeply, are all now just glimpses of what I lost, mocking the persistence at which I chased after love. Everything that reminds me of him is just another miserable memory of the past I want to so desperately forget.

People say love teaches you about yourself, others, and life in general. Love has taught me to not be so completely vulnerable to another person, to not let down my defenses so much that it’s later used against me, and to never let a person in to the extent I am not able to let go. It has taught me to not be so naive, to not wear my heart on my sleeve, and to never trust a person so blindly I am left questioning everything once it’s over.

Though I am so pessimistic about love, I look at my parents or those old couples who are 90, still together and very much in love, and my faith is renewed a little bit each time. It’s nice to believe that there is someone for me out there; someone I will still be with when I’m 90. Not because it was easy, but because even though it posed some of the hardest obstacles, it was something we both believed was completely worth it. So even though I have loved and lost (and probably will a few more times), I refuse to give up hope that love is completely worth all the pain and anguish we endure because of it. Like the majority of the people in this world, I will keep fighting to experience love one more time… and if I am forced to lose hope, at least I will know I did it kicking and screaming, wishing for one last shot.